I heard from R Moshe Yosef Unger-The Veitzener Rav of Chicago, that before moving to Chicago 40 years ago to found the Veitzener, he consulted with his Rebbe, R Shlomo of Bobbov, conveying his concerns about his childrens chinuch. (in a city that was 40 steps behind what Chicago has become today.)
R’ Shlomo told him like this;
1. Chinuch is at home.
2. Children out of town grow up healthier than in town. (OUCH… No offense intended..)
He said, look at your shvers kids and you will see that clearly.
With that he gave him his warm bracha.
40 years later one can clearly see the truth in his wise words.
Children do grow up with a very healthy feeling about what they do.
And no it does not impact the standards of their yiddishkeit. (Have not found the person yet.)
To the contrary, these kids have a BIGGER bren for their respective values, for those who know.