Some excited responses related to driving… I agree that part of the explanation is that crazy NY drivers continue doing the same in the “rest of the world” (AKA OOT). This is somewhat an excuse for bochurim on I-95 driving to Florida, but not to people who moved to a community for 1 or more years already. You are supposed to follow local minhagim, not to say about traffic laws and human courtesy.
The NYers somehow think that others do not “know how to drive”. I once drove to NYC from Midwest with a native NYer at the wheel. He was beeped at at the yellow light just based on our pathetic license plate (he told me this is going to happen).
Alos, it is interesting why frumer Yidden drive similar to other MY-ers but are less assimilated on how they dress, how they walk on the sidewalk or shoot their neighbors … Maybe cars look impersonal – you are not dealing with a fellow yid, or human being, but just a piece of metal. If you use your seichel to imagine the person in the other car, you would behave better. Try it.
One trick my kids and I are using is counting how much hesed you do during a trip, letting people inside the lane, make a hard turn, etc. If you remember about it, you can consistently do it at least 2-3 times per trip.