I am a little nauseated by how far the world has went. A Yungerman asks a boy to walk through a hallway with him in full view of his mother and other women, and he is called all sorts of names because he touched his shoulder for a few seconds, and it’s his own fault that he got arrested? Are you mad? And if I tap a ten year old on the shoulder to ask him to pass me a piece kugel by a crowded kiddush, it’s curtains for me? That’s ridiculous.
We are not all involved in this constant thinking about every move in certain terms when it comes to children. And these mentalities trickle down to the kids too in inappropriate fashion, I know someone who worked in a more modern camp (by my standards, for you that may be regular) and he told me that every other time two kids had near physical contact with one another they immediately called each other “creep!”. That’s not normal. People of any age should not be constantly thinking in such terms.
Yes, obviously there is a problem out there, and we must be on the lookout for such things. But that doesn’t mean one must panic at the slightest touch. These things must be dealt with slowly and with caution, not jumping to the moon at the slightest hint at anything wrong.
This is not how a Jewish society operates, you have to use seichel. Maybe instead of worrying about abusers single-track-mindedly, worry about innocent people sitting in jail too, I think that a few years in prison is at the very least a comparable tragedy an abuser situation. Take the time to use your brains! this is not an all or nothing, the police don’t have to be called that very second.
P.S. Anyone slightly yeshivish (Besides the ladies) knows that a man doesn’t walk between two Ladies. So while it may be true that your circles somehow abolished this halachah(?!) it didn’t happen by the yeshivah oilam.
And P.P.S. I heard from someone who knows the Chassid/Tzaddik/Litvak that he is also a major Talmid Chacham.