Dear Avira,
Go tell a satmar preteen that their Rav Yoelish was a loner on his views of the Medinah. Go tell a Lakewood kid, about those that know shas and poskim cold and are college educated. Go tell the YU-bound high schooler, that there are yungeliet in BMG that get mentions in scientific papers. Go tell the IDF that some of the most fanatical chareidim on earth observe the yartzeit of every fallen soldier from the last fifty years. You get the point. (Maybe that’s to optimistic.) People who grow up in a boxed in community don’t have a clue how unique their opinions are.
I concede that there is a specific point to make about Chabad on this matter. But your being too blunt. If you want to speak the truth on this crucial matter, you need to be much more precise.
And one more thing. I’m not making an argument against sheltering anybody from opposing opinions. It is a very necessary thing. That isn’t a reason for us to be embarrassed about this fact of communal life.