Nineteen days after the Ramot terror attack in which Asher and Yaakov Paley, h’yd were murdered, their father, Reb Avraham Noach Paley, was informed of their deaths.
On Wednesday morning, Reb Paley’s wife, mother and brother, together with the Hadassah Hospital support staff, informed him of the bitter news.
Reb Paley responded by immediately reciting the bracha of Baruch Dayan Emes amid his tears. He then requested to tear kriyah and said he now needs to sit shiva until Purim.
Following the attack, Reb Paley was sedated and ventilated until earlier this week, when he regained consciousness.
(YWN Israel Desk – Jerusalem)
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This is so, so excruciatingly painful. I’m crying as I read it.
This is so unbelievably heartbreaking. I hope the community will bear many more sons in their memory.
I CAN’T hold back my tears reading this..
A pity they couldn’t have figured out some way to wait another 11 days before telling him, so he wouldn’t have to sit shiva.
@Milhouse
Pity?!?! Are you mad? Shiva is a thing to be avoided?
Destroy the Arabs!
Thank you Hashem for giving us such amazing people with such legendary gevura! Please be mechaye maysim soon so we can all be reunited without tzaros!
aymdock
I’m certain they asked a rov before telling him. I personally know a number of instances where the avel wasn’t informed until after the sheloshim. Often elderly or in this case very sick.
@ aymdock – “Shiva is a thing to be avoided?”
Actually could very well be: It is assur – according to the Shulchan Aruch – to give over any bisorah ra’ah. Included in that prohibition, is to tell relatives of the petirah of a relative for whom they need to observe hilchos aveilus.
First say the shemah then bench gomel and hatov that your alive to weep about it because up in the dark heaven there is no family
Aymdock, yes, shiva is a thing to be avoided, if it can be. That is the Jewish way, derech yisrael saba. Sons have to be told so they can say kaddish, and if there’s nobody else to sit shiva then someone must be told, but otherwise if it’s possible to hide it from other relatives, at least until after shloshim, then one should try to do so.
@Milhouse – You are correct except I am quite certain you will find that the halachah is that even sons who would otherwise be obligated in aveilus need not be told. The famous p’sak from The Alter of Slabodka regarding not telling Rav Ruderman that his father was niftar has been well publicized. This is the halachah as well, I believe.
I am so inspired by his complete shlita (reign over self) and חריצות. It may sound crazy, but I am jealous. Not of the yisurin of course, chalila. But of his tremendous כח וגבורה