DaMoshe
Hence the term am haaretz
The definition is someone who is basically frum but not stringent or careful on certain matters
The reality is that most people, even those that learned in yeshiva, are “am haretzim”. Another definition (chagigah) is that they reject criticism/hadracha (as in your case)
A chaver is someone who is careful of all d’rabunans and accepts hadracha. Adapted to modernity; a person who wants to grow and changes his ways.
There is a tension between the two groups. Chaverim have to limit contact with am haratzim but without creating “aivah” (hate).
If you consider yourself a chaver, you don’t have to worry about accepting their trumah but you still need to limit contact. Go learn while they celebrate. It doesn’t mean that the party isn’t worthwhile, if it injects some ruchniyos and keeps them from watching TV for a night then kol hacovod. And maybe it will inspire them to learn more and become a chaver
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