the shadchan goes to the war “with the army [s]he has”.
What is usually the basis for proposed matches? Are shadachnim capable of evaluating middos? Are potentially abusive husbands matched to strong-fisted women?
How do potential kallos and their families evaluate effect of learning on the bachur? Does someone in yeshiva gives objective feedback if someone comes late, takes other’s place in shul, etc or is it generic “he is a wonderful bochur” for everyone?