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“Where does it say you can’t go “Kulah shopping” Muttar is mussar assur is assur.”
That’s an oversimplification. Why keep halachos at all? To serve Hashem. Should we serve Hashem like we love Him and want to do the best we can, or like the halachos are loathsome to us and we seek every out we can get to lessen our burden of having a G-d, C”V? Sometimes the act of asking a shaila when we know the potential answers, by putting the decision outside of ourselves, is a means to better serve Hashem. Shopping for the answer we want is better than not asking a shaila at all, but does it show more of a desire to do Hashem’s will, or our own?