phil > so are you trying to say that for various reasons it’s ok
I am not paskening in this forum in the presence of so many gedolim. What I am saying, that I can imagine K’s Rav telling K that he can attend a certain event under certain conditions. This does not mean that the Rav will be calling the whole shul to attend all events regardless…
As an example, I was once invited by a Reform “Rabbi” and a female clergy to assist them in a “mitzva” of affixing a “mezuza” to a “Jewish” family of “immigrants”. I am running out of quotes … l’tzad zhut, maybe they were marronos, but the clergy was not bilingual enough to figure it out anyway. I was ready to politely reject the offer, but then decided to bother a local (chasidishe) Rav and ask him. To my shock, he suggested that I go. And to my further shock, I actually went… I won’t bother you with details of his reasoning, this was particular to the case, but this is an illustration of how strange psak might be.