“For many of us, the excesses of some Chassideshe simchas involving thousands of people with bands, banners and tables overflowing with food and drink are a lot more problematic than some frum parents who engage a DJ with some strobe lights for their yinglach’s bar mitzvah.“
How so?
Goyish Jewish music is better than an abundance of food for guests? I’ve never heard anyone go off the derech from eating too much, I have heard though through listening to goyish music