ובחרת בחיים, the Haflaah in Sefer Panim Yafos says that when we want one to do mitzvos, one should
convince them by emphasizing the positive rewards, gaining the Gan Eden and not burning in gehanom. Similarly to raise children one should praise their positive accomplishments before admonishing about the negative ones. When fighting the yetzer hara remembering the day of one’s demise is the last resort.
We say משוך חסדך אל יודעך א-ל קנא ונוקם, the Chasan Sofer explains we ask Hashem to punish us through His chesed, favor. Let Hashem shower us with extra good and let us recognize that we don’t deserve it and turn us to teshuva and not require any punishments.