Reply To: The coffee room is ussor and I’m trying to make sure people chap

Raboisai here goes: Yasher koach to ujm for backing me up and having some seichal to understand what is being said, and it’s just PURE common sense that it’s wrong to be mingling men and woman talking to each other constantly day in day out.(I’m not trying to attack anyone but if you know it’s wrong/ussor why do u do it, ujm?).

And to menachem your missing the point, what would u like me to do if I want to communicate to the coffee room about something wrong in the CR, how else can I do it other than writing on the coffee room to the cr davka?? (Happens to be this is not about trump and stupidity it’s about serious awareness..)

To Reb elizer with all due respect your saying shtisim and lukshen by an all you can eat buffet, first of all your not a rav and if u want to know the Halacha you have to ask a rav if it’s mutar, not just bring kal vachomers from kol isha and your own savaras to be matir it (which as side point do NOT make sense), but you don’t want to ask a Ruv because we BOTH know what he will say…. so again real life shalos with NO mention in previous poskim need a rav a real rav to matir and like I mentioned you and I both know what the rav will respond…

Now to the actual svaras (I can’t get to all right now) 1 yichud has no shaychas with this so I don’t know what the hava amina is. 2 there is no proof/ kal vachomer from kol isha (which as a side point im pretty sure other poskim argue on Reb ovadia and even if not, minhag yirei shmayaim is not to listen to women sing which basic HASHKAFA will “asser”) kol isha is listening to a Woman sing that is completely different from this discussion, you can’t bring a proof from woman singing, to speaking with a woman day in day out about stupidity about which you get to know the others personality.

About your Svaras… it’s wrong, that’s why you keep going from one to the other in all ur posts… I can also quote chazal let me put one here that’s actually relevant ‏כל העובר עבירה ‏ושנה בה ‏נעשית לו כהיתר, let me just put one example case in point, (and that will defer all your defenses of 1 the moderators make sure people don’t get personal (ha, funny) 2 writing with a pen pal is diffrent/worse and 3 it’s only a problem if ur single (what?))
Case in point I’m gonna use ujm (sorry) because I’ve seen he’s been here for a long time, when ujm sees syag lachochma [on the cr](which I think is a girl but it doesn’t matter to the point I want to make) he recognizes the latters personality and thought process to the extent that he knows how to respond, and can even bring back old jokes and they know each other’s personality to an extent that they already know how to communicate to a certain degree that it’s personal. Now drop that example and just realize this happens and is happening with evreyone in the cr that over here with one another and the matzav is that people are chapping others personality and bonding with one another like friends(girls and boys!!!) and kol shkein if you know that the other is of the opposite gender-the connection that evreyone in the cr builds with each other-is going to be between man and woman that know that they are men and woman speaking!!! And there is a ‏התחברות between man and woman happening with each other, getting to know and communicate with the others personality day in day out (about stupidity mind you) and subconsciously or even consciously from a friendship (men and woman!!!!) This is besides the clear HALACHA that men and woman should not communicate for things that are not important/ not Nogeia and that is in definition “the coffee room” (hence the name) basically a chill spot to shcmooze men and women together for stupidity,

again this needs a rav to be matir and in my eyes it’s clearly ussor al pee hashkafa AND Halacha it’s just poshut like I realized nobody’s really gonna change… and Reb elizer I’m upset at ur heterim that ur making for others and yourslef that don’t really exist al kul punim everyone should have hatzlacha and please maybe even be misgaber on there yetzer and leave the coffee room, which is hard because you know and connect to a lot of people there , which proves my point ‏ושנזכה למשיח צדקנו במהרה בימינו אמן