Gadol – my point is that there’s no comparison between a non-addicted, healthy man’s yatzer hora, which can be triggered by women singing and dancing, and the “ew, gross” reaction women have to men not being tznius. The two are completely different. One is “lo yinakeh midinoh shel gehinnon” if one looks at the small finger of a woman for pleasure, and the other is a nuisance like seeing dead rats on the street.
As for equating all shmiras aynayim/kedushah inyonim to addictions – so what? What does that have to do with my points in this thread? I never once brought up addiction or more extreme behaviors.
Saying “this is “normal” not like X behavior which is criminal (any aveirah is a crime against Hashem)” is reductive. You’re trivializing the nisyonos of ehrlich jews around the world and making it out to be as if it’s only a problem if it goes to a certain extreme that you arbitrarily decided. As i said, etzbah katana is enough to land a jew in gehinnom; that can’t be reduced by the contrast to *bigger” sins.