Reply To: The process of asking for money for a wedding

Really stupid question: If you cannot afford a wedding, scale back the plans to what you CAN afford. Invite fewer people, limit the costs of food/drink served, don’t rent a big simcha hall, etc. etc. Most importantly, if you cannot afford to even purchase a bed, some dishes and pay the rent, perhaps you should think about deferring kiddushin until one or both of you have some income and resources so that you are not literally begging money from strangers.