Always_Ask_Questions,
“I may sound like a partisan to you as I am addressing several specific points where I think community is going in a wrong direction”
Partisan is too mild a word. When your “specific points” are exclusively directed at a community that you are not a part of, and are not based on reason or personal experience, or any limited personal experience is processed in a biased way to amplify the negative and negate the positive, that is not partisanship, that is prejudice.
“I was making some specific suggestions in the middle of stereotyping.”
Specific suggestions that ignore communal needs, values, mores, and culture are meaningless. You’ll make more headway telling the public schools you adore that they need more God and prayer in their classrooms.
“It is, in fact, the right approach when you hear tochacha that feels very unfair – any tochacha is valuable, so search even an unfair one for possibly something relevant.”
That may be if the tochacha was directed at me, but I am not in kollel. My goal in this conversation is וחי אחיך עמך