While it sounds good in theory it’s much different in practice. My Rebbe told me to ask myself if I’m comfortable having Eneklach that do what their family does because that’s what’s most likely to happen. If their family wears blue shirts during the summer would you OK with your enekel doing that? I asked my Rebbe about a Shidduch with a family that doesn’t always wear ties by Shabbos Mincha and he said better not to risk it (he wondered if they lack Kavod Shabbos in that area where else are they lacking that I don’t know about yet?). When it comes to issues like Smartphones and type of filter it becomes even more complicated. We have a Shidduch system based on similar Hashkafas and Yiddishe lifestyles. Upending the system to make more Shidduchim is like trying to bring down the price of fish by declaring Treif fish to be Kosher.
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