At first I was going to say that there is a good chance that your daughters are misrepresenting their teacher’s words, as most children of all ages will do, especially when wanting to plead their case. But after all our conversations here I have seen you take 90% of the things I say and turn them into other things, which i thought was intentional but then came to the conclusion it is how you receive/interpret it. So when you are in defense mode, which you definitely are with those schools, and your child says something in the name of the teacher that you disagree with, no doubt it sounds louder and more aggressive in your ears. You should seriously consider a mediator to hear out what you think the school says and find out from the schools what they really say.
I think that you have displayed a fair amount of skepticism about the lifestyle they were learning about and I would have to question your ability to fairly interpret anything you hear coming from them. I also know that that is a very difficult position for your girls to be in. The catch 22 now is that you have spent all your posting years feigning innocence over all the derogatory comments about the bais yaakov life and system, claiming you don’t even know what I am referring to when I point it out. So now you won’t be able to tell me you held your tongue in front of your girls because that would be an admission that you are actually aware. And trust me, there aint no way they didn’t pick up on it whether you “meant it” or not.