Ujm:
May I acquaint you with this Gemara. Sotah 44A.
תנו רבנן אשר בנה אשר נטע אשר ארש לימדה תורה דרך ארץ שיבנה אדם בית ויטע כרם ואחר כך ישא אשה
There are prerequisites to marriage. It is said of Rav Aharon Kotler, who initiated and promoted the concept of kollel in America, that was asked how he could violate this direction of Chazal. He reportedly responded that this was a horo’as sho’oh. That reported dialogue was about skipping the prerequisite steps in order to transplant Torah in America after the Holocaust. That was in the 1940’s.
To extrapolate that readiness for marriage is the intent of Chazal is a given. Do you force a boy or girl into marriage because their time on the clock has run out? Or should they wait if otherwise not ready?