Divorce is a common occurrence in the Middle East. In Israel, roughly 11,000 couples divorced through rabbinical courts in 2020.
This number means that thousands of Israeli children are victims of broken marriages. Aside from its effects on children, divorce also comes with several legal hurdles. These can include proceedings involving spousal support and property settlement.
Divorce can be a good option for many people who are unhappy with their marriage. Although it takes a lot of work, you can save your relationship and enjoy a healthy marriage. Below are some tips to help you have a happy marriage.
1. Spend Time With Your Spouse
Strengthen your marriage by spending more time with your spouse. You can do this by having scheduled date nights and other activities.
You can save up for a getaway that can help both you and your partner relax and have fun.
Spending time with your partner allows you to understand your differences. It also allows you to learn how to negotiate future conflicts.
2. Remember to Keep a Spiritual Connection
A strong spiritual connection between couples can help their relationship grow stronger. An affiliation with a synagogue can help you and your spouse form a spiritual bond.
3. Communicate
You need to improve your communication skills to have a healthy marriage.
It is unhealthy to assume your partner knows what is on your mind. Do not also conclude that you know what your spouse is feeling or thinking.
Talk to each other and tell them what is going on. As a spouse, you should know when to speak and when to listen. Listening is a skill that takes practice to perfect.
You can look up resources online about how to improve your communication skills. These can be books or online courses about how to listen and how to communicate more effectively.
4. Appreciate Your Partner’s Best Qualities
Practice attraction thoughts. Focus on the attributes of your partner that draw you in the most.
These attributes can be physical or how they parent your kids. It can be about how your partner talks or how they handle conflict.
Remember that marriages thrive on a solid connection. Appreciating your partner’s best qualities can help you with this.
5. Talk About Disagreements
Conflict is a normal part of a marriage. But, conflicts can sometimes increase in intensity. During these cases, these disagreements can be unsafe, emotionally and mentally.
You and your partner must learn how to deal with conflicts. This starts with understanding what your problems are.
Do not be afraid to discuss your issues so you can resolve them.
You can peruse resources online to help you learn how to deal with conflict. This move can go a long way in preserving how safe you and your partner feel during conflicts.
6. Respect Each Other
In a relationship, a lack of respect can result in negative habits. These can include harsh, unnecessary criticisms and put-downs.
Treat your partner the way you want them to treat you. Pay them compliments. Raise concerns in a respectful way, without adding unnecessary negative tones.
When you want to complain about one of your partner’s flaws, ask yourself how you would feel if they did that to you.
Respect is a huge part of a romantic relationship. It is hard to believe that you love someone if you do not treat your spouse with respect.
7. Do Things That You Both Love
Your relationship can flourish if you and your partner share similar interests. Having the same interests allows greater sharing and compromise.
Common interests are essential for a healthy marriage. These interests can be cooking, working out, or eating new food together. The goal is to do an activity that the two of you can enjoy.
8. Be Independent
Although the statement, you complete me, is romantic, it can be unhealthy to be too dependent.
Do not rely on your partner to fulfill you. This dependency can hinder individual growth for you and your spouse.
Remember that couples in healthy relationships complement not complete each other. Be mature and be independent while being open to your partner.
Being married does not mean that your individual growth is no longer essential.
Continue to nurture your interests and desires. Do things on your own or with your friends.
9. Have Fun With Your Partner
Having fun with your spouse can strengthen your marriage. Try out new activities and add new interests to your relationship.
Doing new things together can be fun and can help you evolve with your spouse. These new experiences can enrich your relationship.
You should have fun and laugh with your partner. This can help you find lightness even when you’re stressed about life.
Laughing with and around each other creates an easy space in your marriage. Having inside jokes or watching your favorite comedy show can help.
Keep these tips in mind to enjoy a healthy and happy marriage. Even if your relationship changes with time, your union stays successful.