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The question about strict vs. not strict depends on your daughter. What does she want?
For instance, a Yiddish speaking Bachur from BMG. Very strict, but Litvische. Would she be willing to go on 6-8 dates before the engagement if she is Super Chassidische? Probably not.
Would she be willing to move to Lakewood? Probably not. So, you can see that strict vs. not strict is not enough information. On the other hand, it sounds like she is financially independent, so she is already different than most Chassidische girls.