meirG > imagine calling a big lawyer
rebE> What is wrong with hakoras hatov
rebE – attitude described here.
Meir, his law degree is his, and Torah is Hashem’s and you are l’hathila not supposed to charge for it. I know there are ways, but I am thinking of your attitude where you assume as a most desirable thing to pay your hevrusa, and (jokingly?) dismissing the amount that it will “only” pay to send only one kid for only one month.
I know I sound like a spoiler of cheesecakes, but I am simply trying to align our actions with our values, as sometimes we get used to doing something that may not be the best without AAQ.
I like Meir’s suggestion to slip it anonymously. DISAPPOINTING and DANGEROUS for you – to suggest through the wife. So, if we agree that there is a little lack of kavod to pay to Talmid Haham, kavod of his wife is the same as of him. So, let’s protect his feelings, but his wife’s – not? As we know, women’s prayers are answered immediately… but slipping it in is a good idea – paying more than usual when attending simchos, or paying and not attending, adding when schools collect for specific teachers (is it a thing in your area?).