Reply To: Being sensitive towards tragedy

I think there s a great misunderstanding here which needs clarification.
Throughout Tanach and Chazal we are taught, again and again, than when chas veshalom there is a bad gezeirah on Klal Yisroel, and the possibility exits that many of them may be killed Rl, sometimes Hashem will have Mercy upon them and take a Tzaddik, who is considered equal to many (Moshe Rabbeinu was equal to 60,000 Jews), and his demise will serve as a kapparah for the others.
When one is declared a “korban” it is probably the greatest honor and compliment he may receive. It means that he was considered to be equal to many and was privileged to bring kapparah to Klal Yisroel, for which he will be rewarded immensely in Gan Eden, which is the goal we all were put here to receive (see perek 1 in Mesilas Yesharim).
It is an even greater compliment when the niftar was young as it shows that in his few years, he served Hashem so devoutly that he reached that madreigah.
Anyone who is insulted by the term, simply does not understand its meaning.
Of course it is very difficult for the mourners to hear, just as it is difficult for them to hear all words of consolation when they are in such pain. But, as time begins to heal the wounds somewhat, they will hopefully realize how privileged they were to have brought into the world such a great tzaddik who was able to protect Klal Yisroel from tremendous tragedy chas veshalom.