@Real_1: many girls that in sem they are taught to only want boys who are full time learning
It is a community problem… I have a simple explanation of a mis-balance between talmidei chachamim and those who want to marry one: it takes a lot of learning to become a talmid chacham – and it is much easier for a girl to _want_ to marry a talmid chacham! Less price – more demand. Econ 101. Of course, those girls will pay later, if, has vesholom, they marry someone who stayed in yeshiva for the sake of a shiduch (compounding if averah of not working with learning lo l’shma).
So, for you personally, maybe instead of adjusting to wrong expectations, you should look at working families and daughters who have a better grasp of reality and halakha. Maybe you need to review if you are limiting your search to certain communities or conditions that lead you to people with the attitudes you do not want. If you know that a seminary teaches bad values, just avoid the graduates.