I agree with coffee, they don’t know what they’re missing. And i was actually going to give advice based on lessons learned. I don’t know you at all so please accept this as random and anonymous, i guess.
I think it is really important to know whete you are at hashkofically and where you are going, and see if it matches what you ate looking for. For example, there are guys names given to me with the descriptor that they are serious, solid hashkofos, etc and then a google search turns up an old facebook page or instagram account that should have been wiped clean long ago if no longer relevant, or he should have bern a bit more honest about where he is holding.
If i see a facebook page (I’m already red flagging but…) with 100 friends who all have odd haircuts, bad language, and half are girls it’s obviously not what we’re looking for. (I was told it was an old account from a college program 🙄) But was that a case of a mismatch, poor media hygiene, or someone not knowing where they themsrlves are going.
In closing- i am NOT saying the above means you aren’t a quality guy, it means this was a poorly made match and both sides would have better hatzlacha with different prospects.