The above 28 year old is exactly what I was saying about kollel culture and wanting girls with rich parents. This is an upside down understanding of limud hatorah. Our sages learned without this “system”.
Also, I come from an environment were both men and women had to figure out their lives at a younger age. FFB communities with such a problem is a result of a failed culture. However, I don’t know if every community in the frum world is like this.