@ZSK you sound very naïve discrediting the experiences of thousands of girls based on your own experiences.
I am 28 years old and I recently got married. There are around 10 unmarried girls in my grade. Most of these girls are my friends, as we became closer over the years. All of these girls are pretty, talented, and personable. Most of these girls are also looking for a frum, solid, boy with a plan which unfortunately is very difficult to find. The grades below me are also filled with girls in similar predicaments. As the years pass and these girls accumulate, a crisis is formed. My experience in shidduchim was pathetic. Mothers of boys were obsessed with my parent’s income and social standing. The shadchanim in my community are maxed out. My husband (who is my age) and his friends had a very different experience. They were constantly sent resumes, and of course, the boys are the ones to approve of or nix a suggestion. They took long, leisurely breaks. There is a definite double standards where girls must have their entire lives figured out by the time they are 20, and boys can wait until they are 32 to think potential ways to support a family.
I don’t know what makes me more upset, the fact that many, many girls have slimmer and slimmer chances of getting married as the years pass, or that a frum jew with a heart has the audacity to deny their existence.
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