Reply To: Shidduchim – Divorced Homes

@Joseph
1. Would not mind marrying a working boy, however I’m not sure HE would appreciate ME. I am ultra frum and usually working boys as a general rule (doesn’t necessarily apply to everyone) are more “out there” than most learning boys, especially the ones who want to stay in learning/klei kodesh.
For example in my opinion smart phones are the ultimate no-no, no matter how many filters you put on.
Generally speaking a working boy will be more open-minded than me. He will not be happy with my chumros.
Again, generally speaking. I don’t know every working boy.
I am sure it is very hard to sit and learn all day every day (I can’t even know for sure if I’d be able to do it myself), and also many boys feel it is their responsibility to provide for their future families, which it is.
And they learn very shtark at night/morning.
I would marry a working boy rather than face long-term singlehood c’v. But not sure it’s the best thing for me or him. But push comes to shove yes definitely better then being single past lets say 24-25.
2. Unfortunately divorce is a stigma. It shouldn’t be, because as 5thD said, we are (generally speaking) much more resilient then kids who didn’t go through hardships in life.
And we know what NOT to do in our marriages.
And also there are many people who come from “perfect” resumes/families and they are tyrants to their spouse/children.
But yes it is, unfortunately.
It is an anxiety-ridden world today so people are always being “safe”.
Why do you think there is a shidduch crisis?
In the olden days you married your next door neighbor or first cousin and you made do with whatever it was.