@m1994
You will find your bashert, trust in Hashem. Don’t be discouraged, take it one day at a time and focus now on Shidduchim.
Some suggestions:
1) You are 26. The older you get, the more difficult it will be to find your bashert. The younger you are, the best chances you have. Right now, forget all the other things going on in your life, and focus on your goal. Shidduchim. This is the time.
What age did you start Shidduchim? 18 is a good age to start.
2) Focus on your appearance right now.
When you go on dates, put effort into your appearance.
3) Expand your network, as mentioned above. Add BTs, geirim, older, out of towners, etc. Be open-minded.
4) Do you talk too much on dates and dominate the conversation?
I’m a woman. Sometimes we talk too much. We don’t let the gentleman talk. On dates, make sure you are not talking too much. Don’t interrupt. Let him talk about himself. Don’t Lead the Conversation. Let your date lead the conversation. This advice goes to all girls. This is so important. Let him ask questions about you. Dont ask (as many) questions yourself. Don’t appear too Eager or too Desperate. Let him lead the conversation. Let him show interest. Be quiet, be demure. Wait until the 3rd date to open up a bit, but still not overly too much. Keep it together.
5) Don’t complain or be negative on dates. That’s not fun for anyone. Don’t talk about your personal problems. This goes for both boys and girls.
***most importantly, daven to Hashem. Pour your heart out to him. Ask for help. Daven for a shidduch. Ask people to daven on your behalf. You will be a kallah, you will be an imma. Trust in Hashem.
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