I ask the commenters here to reflect on their own experiences, those of their families, and others they know about. How many of the marrying chassanim and kallahs entered the relationship with the proper tools? Obviously, most marriages last, so I guess many figure it out. But do all have positive role models of marriage? Do they receive the guidance throughout their childhood, including their own growth and maturation as well as their chinuch in our yeshivos and bais yaakovs to exercise the midos tovos needed to tolerate the colossal change from singlehood to married life? Did the chosson and kallah teachers address the subjects of communication, problem solving, dealing with anger, and how to manage their social lives in successful ways?
Way too often, marriages deteriorate because they began on shaky footage, and were not given the proper attention. There are many generalizations we can make here. Some have merit, others are just silly. Yes, there are marriages that result in divorce as the lesser of the evils. Use of statistics might be interesting, but has zero relevance to any particular case. It is sad that parting spouses are upset, and are apt to channel their emotions into negative energy, keeping batei din and courts busy. Lawyers and toanim make a fortune off this, and some rabbonim consider them part of the problem.
All too often, the divorce doesn’t end upon the court or beis din concluding their respective procedures. The fighting and bickering continues and lingers, and the parties limit their original plan to move on with their lives. This is tragic for all involved (except the lawyers and toanim), and shamefully expensive.