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BenTorah123
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Thank you for responding.
I like humor so I like the porterhouse v. fillet minjon mashalim. I read Motty Shmuter, the Kichels, and the New Yorker cartoons weekly. I thought by saying I was from a litvish background and saying I am a talmid chochiom it would rule out non frum people.
Since who knows how many people read this I don’t want to give out to many details to protect my own anonimity. On the other hand I thought since so many people read this someone out there might say, gee, my sister is facing the same or simmilar thing. She has anxiety and takes meds and holds a job, has friends etc but also find people aren’t “too excited” when they hear she takes meds. Or maybe she has some sort of disability.
I have no problem getting dates. The problem is when you follow halacha and reveal (which I do). (Obviously following halacha isn’t a problem…). Even when I reveal it people sometimes say “but you look so normal!”. Online? No one online writes-open to nice guy taking meds. Do I have to marry someone with an issue? No. May people taking meds marry people who don’t. But often that is the way it works out. I’ve come to a point where I am tired of the rejection. I am a great guy, funny, smart, employed, sincerely frum, kovea ittim. I learned in BMG (can’t share more details here) and am regular yeshivish not very heavy yeshivish and looking for the same. If you know of someone out there who is in the same predicament maybe its worth a zoom date. We could use an in between shadchan to set it up to ascertain we’re both legit.
Thanks