Does seminary’s cause a shidduch crisis?

Does grammar mistakes?

Oh for the love of Pete…

HOW MANY ACCOUNTS DO YOU HAVE!?!?

<Eye Roll> It’s amazing… my eyeballs get so much exercise reading these pages thy are the most well developed muscles I have…

UncleMo, spending a year in Eretz Yisroel, particularly immersed in Torah, is incomparable.

No….but repeated postings in frum media about a Fake News created “Shidduch Crisis” might eventually traumatize every 14 yo bas Yisroel who hasn’t yet locked-in her besschert (not to mention the stress level of her parents).

Dunno. But we gotta blame somebody. Any liberal Dems here who want to blame Trump? When we exhaust ourselves with these pursuits, we might stop relying on the dramas of the “Shidduch Crisis”, investigate to see if one indeed exists, and then propose strategies to make things better. Meanwhile, I am not convinced there is a crisis at the sociological level. I do know there are singles around, and actually know several. I have yet to see data that reflects anything that deserves to be considered a crisis, though the individual singles are certainly experiencing one.

Shidduch crisis? I wish my 28 year old son – yes, a boy, male – would get married.

GH – she had a comma between male and boy. her point was obviously that there are also boys looking for shidduchim

lkwdstrong you are not slow but absolutely correct. It may not be a bad idea for the girls to band together and announce that if the boys don’t start dating earlier- they will not date until later- perhaps 21 or so. Or that they won.t date a boy over 21 or 22. It would take all the girls to do it together though but would be wildly effective.

Syag lchochma- and why exactly is it ok to say that seminary is causing the shidduch crisis etc…? Why was OP not making dif criteria by suggesting it’s seminary ? Just explain it to me cuz I’m confused

Thnx siyag lechochma for corrrcting GH. When i read his comment, i was disappointed that my post had been misunderstood.

Of course seminaries cause the shidduch crisis. The shidduch crisis is caused by boys asking for too much money, leaving girls whose parents can’t afford it without a shidduch. Some familes go into major debt to fund the outrageous tuition fees charged by the seminaries, so can’t afford to marry the girls off afterwards.

Alternatively:

Of course seminaries cause the shidduch crisis. The shidduch crisis is caused by too many girls wanting to marry learning boys, and there not being enough learning boys for them to marry. Who brainwashed them to want to marry learning boys? The seminaries, of course.

Alternatively:

Of course seminaries cause the shidduch crisis. The whole shidduch crisis is a hoax, designed to make someone a profit. Now let’s see who stands to profit.
As everyone knows, a girl can’t get a shidduch unless she goes to seminary. Therefore, seminary is an absolute requirement for a shidduch, creating a huge demand. The law of supply and demand says the higher the demand relative to the supply, the higher the price people will pay. So obviously, it’s the owners of the seminaries who created the shidduch crisis hoax in order to be able to charge their exorbitant tuition fees and still fill up.

Hence, the seminaries caused the shidduch crisis.

Perhaps it would be better to spend less time worrying about the shidduch crisis and more time learning to write English properly.

@daasyochid

I don’t understand anything that you have said.

Point #1 The only reason the boys can ask for money is that they have an unfair advantage due to their marrying younger girls which there are more of so the boys have the upper hand and can make demands. Remember supply and demand.
Point # 2
If there were equal amounts of boys and girls in the game- both sides would equally feel the pressure to compromise. Since there is not due to marrying into an age gap scenario once again boys can do whatever they want
Point # 3
Once again it may be true what you say that the seminaries are trying to make money but the only reason that all the girls all of a sudden feel the need to go the Israeli seminaries is to impress boys so that they will not be on the losing end of this unfair game that the boys are playing. Once again if the numbers in the game were equal there would be much less pressure to do all sorts of things to impress the boys and everything would work itself out organically.

So as you may notice the MATH is driving all of this. Additionally even when people are getting married they are marrying girls in many cases that are out of their league-because they could- and then they are finding it difficult to maintain.

@syaglchochoma G-d in his torah states what age boys should start dating. Please don’t now blame g-d for this when we refuse to heed his advice

@daasyochid

I don’t understand anything that you have said.

Yes, and the rest of your post demonstrates that. I was trolling.

Yochy and Syag, you seem to agree that we should do what Hashem wants from us, but disagree as to what Hashem wants from us.

I think we’re in need of guidance as to what He wants from us. What do the gedolim say?

Wow, that’s quite cynical.

@syag lechochma How is my idea contrary to what g-d asked of us? Where did he ask us to marry at 23 or 24 all of a sudden? All of chazal that discuss this subject mention earlier times as best as I can find. I haven’t found a single place that states that boys should delay marriage for this long. And look how much aggravation and suffering this relatively new trendy idea has caused already. When you mention the difficulty girls are having in chassish or Israeli or other circles they look at you like you fell off the moon and have no idea what you are talking abut.

@daas yochid I think that either way that they would have in mind- the goal is the same – to close the gap and ensure that there are 100 boys for 100 girls.

I went to seminary and it saved my life.
And only people who are alive can get married
Duh

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