Obviously, girls from Yeshivish homes prefer boys who are from Yeshivish homes. That doesn’t mean that boys from more-modern homes are suffering from a crisis. It merely means that they should try to marry someone who ALSO comes from a similar background, or should date girls who are a bit older and are therefore forced to settle. Why should a girl settle when she is still in her young twenties? Does family background mean nothing? Does the fact that you might flip back mean nothing? Does the fact that you were subjected to less-than-optimally-kosher food for decades mean nothing? Does the fact that many flip-outs display a certain rebelliousness or emotional instability mean nothing (I’m very happy that you flipped out, but a certain percentage of them flipped-out due to emotional instabilities)? They all mean a lot, and they scare off many girls, who are at a point in their lives who aren’t willing to settle yet. I mean, she is certainly entitled to do so, but I don’t see the reason to pressure her to do so or to blame her for not willing to do so at this early stage of the game.
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