Syag-“I have seen guys present themselves as wonderful, straight, serious guys but they forgot that their facebook pages are public. They may think the girls said no out of pickiness, but that’s because they don’t have a clue that they are presenting a very unattractive side of themselves that doesn’t quite match their resume.”
I don’t mean to be harsh and I don’t speak for myself I speak for many of my friends and good guys out there who don’t even get a chance becaue they don’t meet these flawed “standards” that have been set. Obviously people who deceive others shouldn’t expect. The ones who are real don’t even get a chance. That’s the issue.
People who are genuine deserve to find someone genuine of course. But the corrupt mindset that unfortunately nowadays most women have, the illogical and unrealistic demands ruin it for everyone including themselves.
The illusion that everything should be perfect before marriage it’s like what are they thinking? Do people really think if everything is “perfect” before the marriage then it’s a match made in heaven? I mean seriously there is no perfect and marriage is something that both sides work together to keep. The main thing is for the couple to love each other and actually want to stay together not to marry someone who will satisfy the requirements of their parents and shadchan and friends. Yes parents opinion is important and neccessary since they have experience and are on the sidelines can see clearer, but that’s not the issue.
The issue is the corrupted mindset of women nowadays and then they wonder why they are either divorced or over 30 and alone. These demands have to stop and someone has to educate women/girls (and guys) and remind them of the Torah way and what marriage is really about. Japs will be Japs. But good girls who get influenced by surrounding and result in a corrupted mindset is a shame and really everyone loses out. You are marrying the person who is unique and might be the best person for you. If you want to marry money go get a stack of cash and put a ring on it.