Where did this expectation come from?
when did it start?
This was not the case 15 years ago.
“I would like your thoughts”
Sure!
The premise is absurd. There should be no “expectation” of anything. If it is long distance and involves airfare it is nice for the Chosson to contribute (especially if he wants people to go)
but to start making cheshbonos for every person’s gas and tolls? Your car gets 25 miles per gallon, and you drove 30 miles + x number of tolls on the turnpike, but you could have saved 37 cents by getting on an exit later so thats on you…. preposterous!
The people getting a ride should contribute a token amount to their driver and zehu. Go because yo u want to be mesameach your friend