Simcha613- I agree with you, it is a very difficult challenge it can affect every part of their life. You either have to lie to your spouse or be honest and wonder who would ever accept you as a wife when she can always wonder if she is really loved. He can age and be that 90something year old who was always alone. The difficulty is not only in not sinning but rather in the difficulties of living alone or without the psychological emotional intimacy necessary.
If people were really concerned there would be times of organizations in the community making sure they have kosher company in their life, frum girls would be told to marry gay guys to help the shiduch crisis. No one seems to care and therefore those people are alone comments like yours would make them feel more welcome to stay in the right path.
Health – even if people were not born that way (I agree with you ) that doesn’t mean you can change it. Psychologists know very little about this and no answer To the issue is perfect. There was an organization helping people convert in the community and they were force to close down with no frum organizations coming out in their support . Many states are making such treatments illegal and we don’t hear the agudah or anyone saying much about it. Some psychologists believe you can’t cure it but you can get married first and work with ur spouse in therapy on making it work and that is frightening for many singles to go into the unknown.
On the other hand it is brought down by the rembam that if a person must commit a sin he must go out of town , wear black clothing in other words not celebrate his sins in front of all.
Prevention is the the tool ( healthy families with a father and mom who connect in a healthy way with their child)
A gay person who is able to stay in the path or even who tries hard to is probably someone who God loves very much. Specially now days that it has become so acceptable and is everywhere.
(how come no one is having huge issues with eating 🦞 lobster 🦞 – the toeivah-)
I just think we should all be giving a path to a kosher life for this people and we should pray for their mental health for them to create healthy loving kosher marriages.