“Are we all in agreement that a frum woman getting a job in the US government is not truly a “Kiddush Hashem” in the Torahdik sense?”
I’ll do you one better I don;t think it is even a Kiddush Hashem in the “21st century Colloquial sense”
“Do you think it is an actual mitzvah to look good in front of goyim, ”
Ca asked that earlier, no it isnt an actual mitzvah (though depends what you mean by “mitzvah”) but it is more than a practical consideration, as is clear from numerous sources brought above.
that said back to the actual topic at hand,
Ive been thinking about Joseph’s OP, which Ive heard before and am not arguing with, although IVe also heard Rabonim, and rosehi yeshiva using the term “Kiddush HAshem” in the way Joseph says not too. Fine, they are using it colloquially, not much of a question there
but how how do you (and Joseph) understand Rambam Gezeila 11:3 אֲבֵדַת עוֹבֵד עַכּוּ”ם מֻתֶּרֶת שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר “אֲבֵדַת אָחִיךָ”. וְהַמַּחֲזִירָהּ הֲרֵי זֶה עוֹבֵר עֲבֵרָה מִפְּנֵי שֶׁהוּא מַחֲזִיק יַד רִשְׁעֵי עוֹלָם. וְאִם הֶחֱזִירָהּ לְקַדֵּשׁ אֶת הַשֵּׁם כְּדֵי שֶׁיְּפָאֲרוּ אֶת יִשְׂרָאֵל וְיֵדְעוּ שֶׁהֵם בַּעֲלֵי אֱמוּנָה הֲרֵי
זֶה מְשֻׁבָּח
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