Reply To: Can a husband bring down his wife (take her farther from Hashem)?

Hi everyone… just to clarify, a real life respected Rav did tell me that:

-A husband’s spiritual level and observance is dependent on his wife (thus connection/closeness to Hashem is up to the wife)
-The wife has the influence and power in the relationship to bring him down [no mention of the man being responsible for bringing down himself or his wife]

… Now for context, this talk was in regard to a specific shidduch match. The Rav, I am guessing, was warning me tht aa marriage can make or break a man’s connection to Hashem.

Looking back at the conversation, this question came up in my mind… wait, is it always the wife’s fault? What if she is doing the “right” things and observing Yiddishkeit according to Torah Laws and her husband gets involved in something bothersome?

Marriage is already scary and entails so much pressure…

Anyway, thank you for your honest and sincere answers 🙏🏼