No I categorically do not agree it is among the worst things a human can do to another. As evidenced by the lack of severe punishment, and the requirement to marry the victim.
I happen not to understand it. But I think that that is my short coming
I think it’s pretty clear from the dinim how Hashem views it.
I don’t have to like it nor understand it, OK maybe I should try to understand it because it’s Part of Torah but my lack of understanding doesn’t change the truth. It just makes me also impacted by western ideology