“no I’d imagine a person in that situation would be aghast”
KY,
According to your novel interpretation of what the Torah demands, what right do you have to feel any more “aghast” than if her property was stolen? You would be obligated to control your base feelings and properly educate your daughter to do the same. Otherwise, you would be surrendering to impure western morals and going against the will of Hashem, who expects much better from such an ideologically pure person such as yourself.