“but I believe strongly that OTD youth are the expected outcome if the parents cannot communicate joy in their service.”
Thats true — BUT — you would have to show me the data. Meaning — most OTD kids ar efrom homes were there is no joy in the service. That may or may not be true. Anecdotally — i dont think it is. I made this point about — i know parents who are warm, enthusiastic and joyful and their kids do not remain observant. I have seen the opposite without effect.
As to 5ish’s comment. I can accept that — that kids are pushed away by something they dont believe has value. Thats a valid statement. I would note that both in the Yeshiva World and the MO world most kids do NOT leave.