Reply To: How Shidduchim became a beauty pageant contest.

I find it hard to beleive that Rav Yaakov held boys shouldnt go away for mesivta ,was due to the fact that these boys should sit on the opposite couch and stare at his sisters friends.Either let them interact freely or not at all,dont go half way and pretend they will learn of the feminine personality by being in the same house.But by the thought process you are describing after a few dates the boy should stop asking to see a picture of the girl because he will of learned to appreciate a feminine personality.I think the bigger problem is a boy is worried that even though he finds the girl he is dating physically attractive,he is more worried about what his friends/mother/sister will think of them and be embarrassed that “thats all he can get”.So if you fix that problem than I think you will have a solution