Reply To: Does a convert adopted by frum parents have a bashert?

Joseph: You said, “There’s no reason to think that geirim didn’t have a bashert before birth any more than a born Jew. And a Ger’s and a born Jew may have been bashert for each other.”

Thanks for your input. Believing that a ger could be one’s bashert changes the dating experiences of both gerim and Jews. If you’re a born Jew, then going into a shidduch date with a person who is a ger is a totally different experience if you don’t believe that he or she is destined for you.

Yes, whoever we marry becomes our bashert, one might say.

Yet still, when Jewish authority figures state that no ger could be a born-Jew’s bashert, bars are placed in the dating field that isolate gerim from the rest of the Yidden.