Reply To: How Shidduchim became a beauty pageant contest.

This is not an issue in and of itself, it is part of a much larger and sickening trend among us “Yeshiva People” where all of our gashmius must be top tier. Look at the houses yungeleit live in today in Lakewood and other in-town kollel communities or the cars they drive or the furniture they buy (must be ordered from Italy!). Do you think for a second that R’ A’ Kotler imagined Lakewood becoming the trend setter for style in home decor, clothing, kiddush cakes, kitchens and (you’ll excuse me) the features and size to look for in the girl you are going to marry? The fact that Haimy doesn’t give credit to the MO for seeking more important qualities when they look to get married, but instead chalks it up to rampant divorce is both ignorant and failing to look in the mirror. His second reason is at least more on target.