This happened to our babysitter-
She started dating fresh out of seminary and got pretty far with the first guy she went out with. He had mentioned to the shadchan that he was ready to get engaged and then reality hit her. She was having a good time on the dates and enjoyed being around him but she felt that she might not be mature enough to get married and take on the responsibilities of raising a family. My wife sent her to speak with a rebbatzin who agreed with her that she wasn’t ready to get married for some time. She then called the shadchan, explained what was going on and said that she needed to end it.
A few months later she saw on a different website that the guy had gotten engaged.
Fast forward some more time.
She’s in Lakewood for Shabbos and hitches a ride back to Flatbush Sunday morning with a distant cousin who’s been married for a few years. When she introduces herself to the husband he has this strange look on his face and asks if she has any older sisters. She answers that she’s the oldest but is totally unsure of what he’s getting at. Then he asked if she has any female cousins with the same last name that are dating and she said that her father doesn’t have any brothers- but she is still unsure of what he’s getting at.
During the ride she’s sitting between their two infants and entertaining them. When the kids fell asleep the husband starts talking and explains that he has a friend that had gone out with someone with the same last name so he just wanted to make sure that it wasn’t her sister or cousin. Since he already confirmed that it wasn’t her older sister or cousin he began to relate to her what this “horrible girl” had done to his friend. “She totally led him on that she was interested in him until he was ready to propose and then she claims that she’s not ready to get married.” So, our babysitter considers jumping out onto the Garden State but figures that the child safety locks are engaged and doesn’t even try. The guy keeps going on and on about how horrible of a person this girl was to his friend and she’s sitting there not knowing what to do.
Finally she breaks the ice and says, “WOW, she really does sound immature! I sure hope your friend finds someone else right away and she stays single until she grows up a little”. She spent the rest of the ride sympathizing with the guy while trashing herself.