LOTR92:
You wrote: “. I agree that isn’t he point of purim, but the reality is, to a lot of teens, that is what they look forward to.”
The problem is that this is backwards chinuch, and gives an opposite message. We are supposed to fulfill mitzvos to ascend in kedusha. Purim is such an opportunity, a precious gift. It is sacrilegious to allow Purim to be a time when the disgusting and abhorrent behaviors are considered acceptable. Drunken revelry is never a part of Yiddishkeit. Wine is gladdening, and that’s the drinking of Purim. Being permissive or dismissive of revelry is not consistent with Purim, and conveys a completely opposite message. Mistakes here carry risks of terrible consequences.