Scary, but my short term memory is giving me fits lately.
Only a month ago I read a tshuva from a rav who was asked by a prospective mechutan about the girl’s brother who was a “character”, and mentioned the Chazal, fearing the shidduch because of it. I can’t remember the rav’s name now.
Basically, he said that people for years lived in close proximity for almost their entire lives , as was in time of Chazal, so they learned from each other. Nowadays, he said , a brother might not be living in the same area, the family itself may residing in a larger communitu , so that there isn’t only one way of thinking and/or learning bad middos from another necessarily. So the brother fear doesn’t apply anymore. I’d add myself, that people these days are more engrossed with outside influences due to easier communication withe outside world, and almost certainty of family members living out of area and don’t spend their days mingling with each other as much as was years ago.
The rav told them to go for it if all else looks good.
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