“When did Lubavitch stop having beshows (or whatever the previous system was) and move to American-style dating?”
As far as I know, we never did Beshows, at least not since the 1940s. The process did used to be much shorter, and it was more common to get engaged in 3 or 4 dates. Now 8 – 9 dates is pretty standard.
“Sechel, even in lubavitch there are issues. It’s the same everywhere. There are enough letters from individuals published on lubavitch sites to confirm check it out. Let’s not try to be better than thou here.”
Why am I being attacked? Everyone has issues, I’m only pointing out that in some communities, common courtesy is to give 2 dates before dropping, and in my opinion it’s a great idea.