Based on my understanding of the meaning of hypothetical case: that is a case that *could* happen, but was fabricated. The fact that the child’s behavior was hypothetical does not change the fact that the hypothetical parenting techniques you presented are way off, and not demonstrating what you think they are. Whether or not the Torah requires us to hit a child in a specific scenario has no bearing at all on the scenarios you have provided, which required so many other things. And knowing you don’t hit your kids when it is not warranted does not comfort me if you authored the above exchanges based on your understanding/experience with children.
Does that help you understand the push-back you are getting from us? It’s not about Halacha, it’s about your understanding/presentation of it.