@MrSarahLevin I understand you think we should all take responsibility to serve in the army. According to the logic I would also think we should take responsibility to learn. All men technically have a responsibility to both, and if half the population is shirking their responsibility to study and learn, than someone has to pick up the slack.
About Chareidim in general and the army, and “not being allowed to go out and work”, yes there is an ideal where we all would not have to do these things, but life isn’t like that anymore. Some boys who aren’t thriving in yeshiva are suitable for a hesder program, and full time learning isn’t cut out for everyone, and working in an area you love isn’t assur and there’s many different ways to find a proper place to study a trade. The Torah teaches us to do chinuch to tailor it to the needs of the child.
It isn’t as black and white and some of you make our society out to be.