laskern, I believe that was because of kivud of parents not because of Gezel shina. Don’t think that’s a makor.
I assume you can only wake them up to light if they are not makpid under assumption that they would want you to light with pesumei nisa I don’t think this should grant permission for anyone to wake up his roommates or wife if they are not happy about it for example if the night before they were unhappy you woke them